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Monday Sep 30, 2019

We Went to Church

Monday Sep 30, 2019

We went to church for the first time in 4 years.

We attended Hillsong in midtown manhattan last Sunday, and this week we have a conversation about our experience. Enjoy!

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Monday Sep 23, 2019

Being a Godly Man

Monday Sep 23, 2019

I had a hard time being a 'Godly' man.

On this episode, we talk about my experience growing up as a man in Christianity. We talk about how "Godly manhood" is difficult to define, and the definitions available are contradictory and impossible to achieve.

We talk about how the pursuit of godly manhood affected my self-worth, my ability to think for myself, our marriage, and much more.

In the end, we wrap up by discussing where we're at now, and how wonderful it is to be able to define masculinity for myself without the constrictive burden of Christianity.

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Monday Sep 16, 2019

Being a Godly Woman

Monday Sep 16, 2019

What does it mean to be a 'Godly' woman?

On this episode, Katie shares her experience growing up as a woman in Christianity. She talks about the way it effected her self-worth, her relationships, and her view of feminism.

In the end, we talk about how where she's at now and how her view of herself and womanhood in general has changed for the better.

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Monday Sep 09, 2019

Indoctrination and Your Inner Child

Monday Sep 09, 2019

Our beliefs about God, our lives, and our identities were formed long before we were conscious enough to understand them.

In this episode we talk about indoctrination: training a person to believe something without any critical questioning. Although we can’t fault our parents for it, we were indoctrinated into Christianity as children, and understanding that fact has greatly helped us deconstruct from it.

We talk about why childrens' brains are so sensitive to indoctrination, why those early-set beliefs have lasting significance, and how doing inner child work has helped us move past our past.

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About the Different Brain Waves

Monday Sep 02, 2019

This is Your Brain on Worship

Monday Sep 02, 2019

Sunday morning worship is a great way to brainwash yourself.

In this episode we talk about our experience as worship leaders and as worshippers of God. We talk about how important worship was for us as Christians, and about how our questioning of “God’s presence” in worship led us to question many other areas of our faith.

We talk about the formulaic structure of many church services, as well as how the style and choice of music influences our brains to make us more receptive to the words we are singing and the messages we are receiving from the pulpit.

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Monday Aug 26, 2019

Finding a New Identity

Monday Aug 26, 2019

It’s tempting to try to replace the identity that’s lost when you walk away from Christianity.

In this episode we talk about the tendency we have to try to find our identity in external things.

We talk about atheist groups, progressive Christianity, “I am” labels, and other “boxes” that can limit your perception and cause you to view life through a filter.

Therapy, reading, and meditation have helped us to quiet the external and feel comfortable to simply “be”.

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Keep Your Identity Small

Monday Aug 19, 2019

Losing Our Identity in Christ

Monday Aug 19, 2019

Losing our Christian identity was one of the hardest parts of leaving our faith.

In this episode we talk about what we thought it meant to “put your identity in Christ”.

We talk about how losing that Christian identity especially affected Joe, what that process looked like for us, and what some of our biggest takeaways are from this part of the deconversion process.

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Monday Aug 12, 2019

Visiting Our Hometown and Family

Monday Aug 12, 2019

This is our first time coming back home since we told our parents that we’re no longer Christian.

We spent 10 days in Wisconsin visiting with both sides of our families. Every time we come home we feel more and more distant from the people we used to be when we lived there. This time we noticed more than ever how big of a role Christianity plays in the culture and lives of the people in our hometown. There are Bible verses in restaurants and banks, proselytizing car salesman, and an overall “stuck in the past” mentality that never bothered us before.

We had a good conversion with some family members and left with more compassion for them and for our past selves. Family can be a difficult relationship to maintain with or without the tension of religion, and we want to continue to be open and loving with our parents and relatives after our break from Christianity to rebuild a baseline relationship for our future selves.

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Monday Jul 29, 2019

Christianity Warped Our Brains

Monday Jul 29, 2019

Believing in Christianity killed our ability to think critically.

We talk about faith, and why it’s definitely not a virtue, as well as what it was like to have adults train us to believe in loads of nonsensical stories. We discuss some of the ways in which Christianity was training our brains to ignore contradictions, doubts, and criticism. We touch on the over-emphasis on authority, and how the Bible told us to not to trust ourselves but instead to trust those that “God put in authority” over us.

And finally, we discuss how Christianity is a closed, self-satisfying system that is essentially impervious to outside criticism. We’re so glad to be free.

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